Thursday, August 28, 2014
Do you answer yes when you really want to say no? Then read The Power Of No
The book begins with "Your No Bill of Rights".(pg 14) Each "right" describes just how empowering and relatively "painful" it might be to just say no. Fact is it can painful to say no, especially if you tend to be of the "yes" persuasion, "a naturally giving person". One of the No Bill of Rights is the "right" to choose what stories you believe in.
The authors give simple techniques on how to say No effectively and begin to honor your true authentic self. Speaking of authenticity there is a chapter on storytelling. Was there any time you bought into another persons interpretation of how your life should be lived, usually according to their story? Perhaps in the past you've said yes to doing something only to regret it later or at the precise moment the agreement left your lips. smh, Now what do you do? According to the authors it is ok to change your mind. Changing you mind can be the best thing you have ever done. For example engaging in activities with folks that drain you. Maybe a family member, co-worker or friend. It may be difficult to say No as most people equate saying No with some type of rejection. This book can help you change that perception. Saying No is a good thing.
Another one of the "No Bill of Rights" is the right to take your time. sighs. Thanks for the reminder. Why hurry? Have you ever been rushed into making a decision about something that isn't urgent but you are pushed to commit ASAP or PRONTO? The Power Of No reminds you to slow down and rather than react on auto pilot to people, situations and circumstances in our life take some time to evaluate the best answer. The Power Of No may surprise you, it surprised me. This book describes seven(7) levels of No and how using them can be powerful.
Warning this book is REAL! A real good read with real stories and real practical tips that can be life changing.
From the authors: What we show in this book is that No comes from a deep core inside. A spiritual core. One that allows you to tap into power you might not have known you had.
I'm all about tapping into my spiritual core and connecting that power source. So I put the techniques to task. There is someone I've known for years that is always asking for something, a favor, an errand, work etc with the promise of future pay. I once rode around several counties spending days meeting and talking with realtors in the anticipation of the promise of being compensated for my time and efforts at a future date. It was always tomorrow. While tomorrow came my money never did. I always seemed to agree to doing things for this person that take my time and cost me money. We hadn't spoken in awhile since the last time I fully expressed my displeasure with this behavior. Well, It is written when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Like clockwork that evening while reading the chapter on boundaries I got a text asking for a favor. I text back....ok. ugh.. Then came the promise. breathe! All the emotions and pain of feeling used and disrespected came flooding back. I felt it in my core. I mindfully sat with the decision. I read the book some more. I woke up around 3am and decided it was time take my power back. The Power of No. Later that day I text the person, I changed my mind. They did not reply and as hours passed I realized this was the pattern. Eventually I was able to say No. It was uncomfortable but in the long run it will be worth it. What a lesson! According to the book, When our No's are not in place, we are vulnerable to abuse(pg.43). Since reading this book I have become much more aware of the Power Of No and the abuses of yes. This is a great book filled with wonderful lessons and real life examples of just how enlightening saying no can be. Yes! saying no can be a spiritual experience. The Power of No is available on Amazon, at Barnes & Noble Hay House and Indigo
Please note I was given a copy of this book to review by Hay House with my unbiased opinion.
- My goal is happiness! These blogs are a way of sharing ideas to the good life. I tend to think...a lot. I used to think, thinking was a good thing. Then I began to let go. Thoughts are things and it is a good thing to periodically clear out the old and simply improve. Focused thinking brings about results! Meditation is good thing. Hypnosis helps!A metaphysical visionary with a doctorate in metaphysical hypnosis, Rev. Dr. Karen Saunders has a holistic practice specializing in teaching relaxation and manifestation, motivation, confidence building and self healing using metaphysical techniques. Rev. Dr. Saunders assists clients in releasing what no longer serves them by creating a safe space in order to bring forth healing love, peace, harmony, and prosperity. She has trained with Dr. Brian Weiss in past life regression, Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine as an Angel Card Reader. Metaphysical hypnosis, Reiki and Theta healing are among her specialties as well as being a tobacco cessation specialist. Rev. Dr. Saunders is the Author of "What Happens When Affirmations Don't Work? What they forgot to tell you"and is a motivational speaker. To visit the website for more information go to www.amustardseedhealing.com
This forum is my way of getting thoughts out my head as I reacquaint myself with my heart. How familiar are you with your heart? What are you passionate about? I am living my dreams and hopefully so are you.
BTW what was your last dream? when?
Dreams hold the key to prosperity and abundance! be happy. dream big.
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